As the title of this entry suggests, today I’m going to talk about your belief system and how it actually affected you for the past decades. In fact, today I will be only talking of one of the belief system that limits your potential and subsequently, along the week, I will talk about the others one by one.
So the first belief system I assume you have will be the belief that people are constantly looking, judging or even making fun of you.
Back then when I was younger, I used to think this way too until I found out, this belief of mine is wrong because people are not constantly looking, judging or even making fun of me. They are more self conscious. They would rather spend those focus on themselves more then you.
You see, people in the society be it in a restaurant, malls, club tend to think this way that people are constantly looking, judging or even making fun of them and because of this thought, it makes them self conscious. Therefore I’m telling you, don’t worry, be more social-fearless.
But hold on, I only said people are not constantly looking. In other words, they are times they tend to look or judge. Don’t let this shatter your confidence I’m telling you. Unless you are a lazy person who doesn’t dress properly, the attention/focus given by the by-standers to you are usually positive. What’s more, they may be envying/admiring your acts and styles.
And so, get this social fear out of you and here’s the next step. Before you even talk to the girl whom you want to date or whatever your plans are. I need you to boost your own confidence and really rid off this social fear. How?
I want you in the next 3days to approach 5 strangers and start a small talk with them. It could be on the bus, the lift. Wherever, whenever, any age, any gender. Just open a small talk with them.
Back then when I did this, I usually use statements like, “wow the weather’s hot, where are you heading to?”
However, there are alternatives of course. Here’s a video on direct opener. (You may want to use this to open the small talk)
So the first belief system I assume you have will be the belief that people are constantly looking, judging or even making fun of you.
Back then when I was younger, I used to think this way too until I found out, this belief of mine is wrong because people are not constantly looking, judging or even making fun of me. They are more self conscious. They would rather spend those focus on themselves more then you.
You see, people in the society be it in a restaurant, malls, club tend to think this way that people are constantly looking, judging or even making fun of them and because of this thought, it makes them self conscious. Therefore I’m telling you, don’t worry, be more social-fearless.
But hold on, I only said people are not constantly looking. In other words, they are times they tend to look or judge. Don’t let this shatter your confidence I’m telling you. Unless you are a lazy person who doesn’t dress properly, the attention/focus given by the by-standers to you are usually positive. What’s more, they may be envying/admiring your acts and styles.
And so, get this social fear out of you and here’s the next step. Before you even talk to the girl whom you want to date or whatever your plans are. I need you to boost your own confidence and really rid off this social fear. How?
I want you in the next 3days to approach 5 strangers and start a small talk with them. It could be on the bus, the lift. Wherever, whenever, any age, any gender. Just open a small talk with them.
Back then when I did this, I usually use statements like, “wow the weather’s hot, where are you heading to?”
However, there are alternatives of course. Here’s a video on direct opener. (You may want to use this to open the small talk)
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