Today I’m going to talk about eye contact but before I start of, here’s a video to give you a better picture what I’m going to talk about.
As the video mentioned, eye contact is an important thing to have when you want to pick up girls.
When I mention eye contact, I’m not referring to that eye contact you give when you look at someone lustfully. I’m referring to those that are polite and sweet. What I’m pointing out here is ‘SMILE’ with your eyes.
Make that person you are exchanging eye contact with comfortable instead of feeling intimidated. Make her feel important instead of making her feel as though she was just any other girl.
The first few things a lady does when she enters a club or room will be to scan through the room consciously or subconsciously. But either way, this means something, she’s using her eyes. Which means? If you manage to catch her by using eye contact when she’s scanning her room, you’ve just got her attracted to you and that makes things easier.
But what happens if you fail to do so? Or what if you were the one who enters the room and saw a lady? Well, it’s the same thing too, eye contact. There’s always another chance to make eye contact with that lady however, I’m telling you never let it drag because once you do so, you probably won’t approach her later thinking to yourself, she’s going to leave soon, its useless or just giving yourself some lame excuses so you don’t have to exchange eye contact with her.
The whole point is to learn to ‘SMILE’ with your eyes and learn to exchange proper eye contact. And keep this in mind, always, never ever approach a girl when she’s not even attracted to you. At the very least, exchange some eye contacts.
But before I end of, remember on my previous post, I mentioned that for the next 3 days, do approach 4-5 strangers and open small talks with them? Well, if you have done so then well done but either way, from now till 3 days later, I want you to approach 4-5 strangers again and open small talks but this time with eye contact. Treat it as, you’re giving them your fullest attention and respect. To ensure that you really are on track when exchanging eye contact, I want you to also write down the color of person’s eye.
That's all for today, till tomorrow, bye!
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Your belief limits your potential (part I)
As the title of this entry suggests, today I’m going to talk about your belief system and how it actually affected you for the past decades. In fact, today I will be only talking of one of the belief system that limits your potential and subsequently, along the week, I will talk about the others one by one.
So the first belief system I assume you have will be the belief that people are constantly looking, judging or even making fun of you.
Back then when I was younger, I used to think this way too until I found out, this belief of mine is wrong because people are not constantly looking, judging or even making fun of me. They are more self conscious. They would rather spend those focus on themselves more then you.
You see, people in the society be it in a restaurant, malls, club tend to think this way that people are constantly looking, judging or even making fun of them and because of this thought, it makes them self conscious. Therefore I’m telling you, don’t worry, be more social-fearless.
But hold on, I only said people are not constantly looking. In other words, they are times they tend to look or judge. Don’t let this shatter your confidence I’m telling you. Unless you are a lazy person who doesn’t dress properly, the attention/focus given by the by-standers to you are usually positive. What’s more, they may be envying/admiring your acts and styles.
And so, get this social fear out of you and here’s the next step. Before you even talk to the girl whom you want to date or whatever your plans are. I need you to boost your own confidence and really rid off this social fear. How?
I want you in the next 3days to approach 5 strangers and start a small talk with them. It could be on the bus, the lift. Wherever, whenever, any age, any gender. Just open a small talk with them.
Back then when I did this, I usually use statements like, “wow the weather’s hot, where are you heading to?”
However, there are alternatives of course. Here’s a video on direct opener. (You may want to use this to open the small talk)
So the first belief system I assume you have will be the belief that people are constantly looking, judging or even making fun of you.
Back then when I was younger, I used to think this way too until I found out, this belief of mine is wrong because people are not constantly looking, judging or even making fun of me. They are more self conscious. They would rather spend those focus on themselves more then you.
You see, people in the society be it in a restaurant, malls, club tend to think this way that people are constantly looking, judging or even making fun of them and because of this thought, it makes them self conscious. Therefore I’m telling you, don’t worry, be more social-fearless.
But hold on, I only said people are not constantly looking. In other words, they are times they tend to look or judge. Don’t let this shatter your confidence I’m telling you. Unless you are a lazy person who doesn’t dress properly, the attention/focus given by the by-standers to you are usually positive. What’s more, they may be envying/admiring your acts and styles.
And so, get this social fear out of you and here’s the next step. Before you even talk to the girl whom you want to date or whatever your plans are. I need you to boost your own confidence and really rid off this social fear. How?
I want you in the next 3days to approach 5 strangers and start a small talk with them. It could be on the bus, the lift. Wherever, whenever, any age, any gender. Just open a small talk with them.
Back then when I did this, I usually use statements like, “wow the weather’s hot, where are you heading to?”
However, there are alternatives of course. Here’s a video on direct opener. (You may want to use this to open the small talk)
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